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Hi, I’m Laura.

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Are you intentionally avoiding conflict in your relationships?

Are you intentionally avoiding conflict in your relationships?

Are you intentionally avoiding conflict in your relationships?

"A conflict is a situation in which people have needs, desires, or opinions that don’t match up. It occurs when decisions need to be made or incompatible needs arise.”- Effy Blue

A misconception about conflicts is that they have to end in a fight because of the tension and anxiety that they bring up. And because conflict is scary, we brush it under the rug.

But! By not bringing up our unaddressed needs, we build resentment towards our partners. Then eventually, we snap 😳. (We’ve all had those moments where the dishes in the sink become the straw that breaks the camel’s back.)

When addressing conflict in a relationship, you get to make the decision to approach it as collaborators or adversaries. THAT is the difference between a conversation and a fight.

(I’m nerding out about nonviolent communication recently 🤓 Can you tell?)

Read more about conflict avoidance HERE!

Read more about nonviolent communication HERE!

What do you think is the most skipped step in opening up a relationship?⁣

What do you think is the most skipped step in opening up a relationship?⁣

I was the surest I’ve ever been of myself at 18 years old.

I was the surest I’ve ever been of myself at 18 years old.